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Earlier this year, results from an Australian study of over 3,500 employees across 42 organisations from different industries found that one third of the participants were suffering from some form of mental disorder. Of those, 36% were suffering from depression, 33% from anxiety, and 31% from stress. The results echo the statistics from other parts…

In mindfulness workshops, most people raise their hand when asked if they have heard of the word before and are able to describe mindfulness as being more present and calm. So it’s safe to say, Mindfulness has become a widely familiar term. While participants see the value in feeling less stressed and not getting caught…

Mindfulness expert Jon Kabat-Zinn defines mindfulness as the “process of paying attention, on purpose, to the present moment, non-judgmentally”. But what does this actually mean? Research from Harvard has shown that we spend almost half of our lives distracted, not living in the present moment, bemoaning the past or catastrophizing the future. We spend very…

In this article I’m going to talk about issues surrounding saying yes when feeling no. Imagine that there is a perpetrator, a narcissist, who has perfected the art of manipulation, and a victim who has been broken in various ways by a long history of trauma and does not have the internal structure to say…

“Nothing can be loved into something” (song lyrics to Breathe by Seinabo Sey) To me this means that after removing the stain, the shame, of trauma there is nothing. In that empty space truth comes in and purity and from nothing grows something to be loved but before that the survivor feels unlovable. *** This…

What if the Victim Did Make Mistakes? Sometimes, trauma survivors do play some role in getting into situations in which they end up being traumatized, and it can be important to examine potential mistakes, naiveté, and self-sabotage, as one stage of the therapeutic process (generally after other, much more important, symptoms and issues are worked…

Why Do People Blame Trauma Victims? Why do Trauma Victims Blame Themselves? Here are 16 possible causes of both Blame the Victim (others blaming the trauma survivor for their traumas) and Internalized Blame the Victim Mentality (the trauma survivor blaming themselves): (Note: This is Part 6 of the Blame the Victim Series, originally entitled Blame…

This is Part 5 of the Blame the Victim Series. The daily battle trauma survivors are engaged in is many times completely not understood by people who have not been traumatized. The thing is, this lack of understanding makes total sense. It Makes Sense for a Non-traumatized Person to Blame a Traumatized Person for Their…

(Note: This is Part 4 of the Blame the Victim Series originally called Blame the Victim Part 4 – Trauma Symptoms Are Not Victims’ Fault) Ongoing Trauma Symptoms Are Technically Not The Trauma Survivor’s Fault Our Attitude and Learning Process around Handling our Triggers, our Physiological Reactions, are Within our Control but the Fact that…